First of all, Happy New Year to whoever read my blog. This is my first time checking my blog out after a month. I've been very busy lately because I have to revised and I'm doing all my best to get straight A's in PMR! I think I'm ready for the exam, hee hee :)
As a girl myself, of course I hate it when a friend of mine or my BFF stole my boyfriend, even though I've never dated. I never know how it felt when someone you really love was stolen unexpectedly. And I think these kind of stuff sucks. Whatever.
You just heard a rumor that another girl has been flirting with your guy. Suddenly your face is hot, and there's a horrible pit forming in your stomach. How could this happen? What's going on? Even if things were fine a few days ago, suddenly every tiny doubt you've ever had about your relationship is magnified by 1,000 and every girl you see is like a threat. Or perhaps you and your BFF have your eyes on the same guy, and the tension of the unspoken competition is driving you crazy. The possibility of losing him to someone else sparks this intense feelings inside you---and you vow to do anything to keep him for yourself. But before you start a fight, hear from girls who have survived a battle--and learn how to keep the peace in your own love life.
" MY BFF STOLE MY BOYFRIEND!"
" I instantly bonded with Jill during college orientation, and soon we were so close that she would borrow my clothes and pick up my slang words. So when I started crushing on this guy in my dorm, David, I told her right away. 'Go for it!' she said, joking that she'd like him too if she didn't have a boyfriend. The first time David asked me to hang out, we biked to a nearby park and sat on swing, talking. We hung out almost everyday after that, and a few weeks later, he finally asked me to be exclusive.
One night David confessed that Jill had asked him to hang out----without me. I was just weirded out, but Jill told me she just wanted to get to know David better. She is my bestie. I thought---it makes sense for them to be friends. After that, they started hanging out a lot. It was strange to feel left out of my own relationship, but I trusted them.
One night Jill asked David and me to come over--she'd broken up with her boyfriend and was really upset. In the midst of crying, she blurted out to David, 'I'm attracted to you. I've always wondered what it would be like to be with you.'. David said, 'Only one way to find out.' Then he kissed her--right in front of me! I was shocked. All this time I've trusted Jill--and she'd used me to steal my boyfriend! ' What were you thinking?!!' I screamed at her. She said she didn't mean to hurt me, but she liked David so much, she couldn't help it. I was disgusted--what kind of 'friend' would do that? After that, I couldn't stand to look at either of them--I had to cut them both out of my life.
It's been a few months, and the pain of losing David has subsided. I realize now that Jill was a dangerous friend who didn't know boundaries. I wish I had paid attention to the suspicion I felt as she get closer to him, instead of feeling like I owed it to her just because we were friends. If our bond was built on real trust, a guy would never have come between us. But Jill was the kind of friend who needed to win."
- SHELBY,19,HOUSTON,TX
" WE WANTED THE SAME GUY!"
" My first date with Brian* was practically out of a romance movie: He brought me flowers, told me I was beautiful, and even won over my mom. I was still on cloud nine on Monday when I saw my friend Natalie*--we caught up every morning by our lockers. Since Brian went to another school, I couldn't wait to fill her in. But as I spilled the details, she got really quiet, then race to class as soon as the bell rang. A few hours later, a friend frantically pulled me aside the hallway. 'You and Natalie are dating the same guy!' she said. I freaked out and went to find Natalie. She told me about the guy she was seeing, and it definitely seemed like the same person. But Brian had been so into me---there was no way he was serious with her. She probably just likes him. I thought.
That night on the phone, Brian laughed it off. 'Natalie's crazy---she's had a crush on me forever!' he said, the reassured me that I was his only girl. But over the next months, things got shady: Brian would be 'too busy' to hang out , and Natalie kept glaring at me in the hallway.
I tried to push it aside, but I broke down and asked one of Brian's friends what was going on. He paused. ' Brian doesn't think you're exclusive,' he said. ' He's seeing Natalie too.' I was being duped---and I couldn't ignore it anymore. That night, I dumped Brian.
I thought Natalie and I would stand together after that--like maybe she'd realize we were both getting played--but she kept seeing him! Then I started getting nasty IMs calling me a slut, and I knew I was behind them. Brian had pitted us against each other, so he could have us both-- and I'd just turned blind eye. I'm glad that I came to terms with who really is. I just wish it hadn't cost me a friend to find out."
- MARIA,19,OCEAN,NU
* Name has been changed.
spot a backstabber!
You want to think your friend's on your side----but these little warning signs could mean she's not!
- She ask too many questions. A good friend wants an update on your relationship, but a sneaky friend wants every private detail---she's feeding your obsession.
- She makes you insecure. Remarks like, ' It must be hard to date someone who's such a flirt' will make you doubt your guy, so there's room for her to step in.
- She feels entitled. A girl who constantly defends her right to talk, text or hang out with your guy refuses to admit to you---or to herself---that she's crossing a line.
" HIS EX WENT PSYCHO!"
" Spencer and I had been dating a few months when I got an email from his ex, April. 'You are nothing to him,' she wrote. ' He wants me, b*tch!" I was furious---no one talks to me that way! I angrily sent back a response, and soon we were e-mailing constantly. I believed Spencer when he said he hadn't thought about her in months, but I still got a rush of adrenaline every time I saw her name in my inbox and could fire back a nasty email. I knew I was baiting her----and I liked it. Then one day out of the blue, April showed up at Spencer's house. ' I can give you things that she won't,' April said. Then she pulled down her pants, as if to hook up with him! That's when Spencer lost it. ' April, it is over with you. I'm dating Courtney and I love her. Stop embarrassing yourself.' Then he pushed her out of the door. That weas the last time we heard from her. I was proud that Spencer stood up for us, but I realized I should have ignored April all along--- I could have saved us both a lot of drama. - COURTNEY,17,ATHENS,GA
ugly situation
Above : Jersey Shore's JWoww literally tried to smack sense into Sammy(right) about her cheating boyfiend.
call a truce!
When you and a friend compete for the same guy, it can distort how you think.---you can start to care more about beating her than you do about him. So ask yourself: Do I have a real connection with this guy--or am I caught up in the chase? If you decided to go for it, tell her, " I can't let go of my feelings for him, and I need to see how they play out. Can we make our friendship work too?" But be prepared to give up your right to talk about him---and for her to want to go for him too. Just make sure you play fair--its a girl code.
is he even worth the fight?
Is it the other girl who's causing a drama- or is he the one stirring up the trouble? Here are the signs:
- You've told him it drives you crazy when he talks to another girl or his ex, but he does it anyway.
- When a girl writes a flirty post on his Facebook wall, he leaves it up instead of deleting it.
- If you call him out on a sketchy behavior, he turns it around and says you're overreacting.
- He constantly you give updates on how many girls flirt with him---as if he wants reaction from you.
- When he reassures you that he's not seeing anyone else, you still have a nagging doubt in your mind.
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